Appear Confident in a Room Full of People
Have you ever looked at someone who lights up the entire room and felt like they have superpowers? Well, it is true that some of us are inherently confident and things like upbringing and social experience can aid confidence. However, it is a quality that you can develop with self-improvement.
Alex Malley, the CEO of CPA Australia, works with a large team of members and has noticed a pattern of negative self-beliefs. Malley believes that a lack of belief in your potential can restrict your personal development, a skill that can promote you in your other endeavors in career and private life. Our social life can also suffer as a result of this fluctuating perspective about ourselves.
Appearing confidence is one skill that has really been the rock of my success. Whether it is giving a pitch, meeting people at a networking event, or even hanging out with friends - having confidence gives you that aura of charisma and draws people in. Now here is my trick. I am rarely the smartest, most qualified, or richest person in any room I walk into. And I’m sure confident individuals like CEOs and politicians have bad days; when I am having a bad day I am simply too tired to be ‘confident. But you don’t have to ‘be confident’ to ‘appear confident’. So here are four strategies that I use to appear confident even when I am not:
1 | Stand A Little Taller
If you avoid social events or feel like you are always bound in a corner unable to make a conversation, learn how to take up your space. Don’t be afraid of appearing taller by keeping your spine straight. Even if you are scared on the inside, your body language will give the impression that you are confident with the potential of leadership. This can be your little first step towards personality development.
What is amazing about this trick is that - our body language has the ability to affect our mood and mind. When you close yourself off and cross your arms, you are quite literally closing your mind. Our brain says, “Hmm, Sid is crossing his arms, not talking to anyone, and isn’t smiling. He must be having a bad time we should go home”. But you can physically change your mood. By standing tall, taking up space, using open body language, and smiling (even if you don’t feel like it) our brain flips the script and says, “Sid is doing all the things he usually does when he is confident and happy, therefore let’s make him feel that way”. Change your posture, and you will change your life.
2 | Become What Your Admire
Now, if you want to work on personal development, think of a few people that you really look up to and admire. When you are among peers, with friends or in social situations, try to behave as your ideal person would. This tip will help you reach your highest self by turning into the person you had always dreamt of by embodying the qualities you appreciate in them.
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3 | Focus On The Good
We have always been told to focus on the positive, but how many of us have actually done it? Layne Beachley who is a surfing world champion says, “Focus on what inspires you, not on what scares you.” It is true that your fears will continue to persist but when you pay more attention to what excites you; your fears will not keep you from appearing confident in social situations.
4 | Best Not Perfect
Your self-help fails when you aim for perfection because there is nothing like a human being who is 100% perfect. What we often perceive as perfect is some one who has aligned their personality development with their best shot at things. You have to know what your worth is and you will find yourself easing into social situations with time. Oprah Winfrey, the richest and most influential woman in the world shares her own experience, “I had no idea that being your authentic self could make me as rich as I’ve become.”
To Wrap Up:
If you ever carefully notice successful people like superstars, tech-geeks, CEOs, authors, etc. you will learn that they all have their doubts. However, they appear confident because in the end they know they might not be perfect but they have something to offer.
You can channel your higher self with self-improvement that will fuel your personal growth with time. Learn to let go of fears that always hold you back from your personality development and remember you have the ability to own the room, even when you do not feel like it. :)
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